♡ HOW 2 HU$TLE - & LOVE IT ♡

i decided to write this blog because i get so many messages asking how i’m so positive at work, how i usually manage to have good nights, how i obtain my regulars + getting spoiled, etc and honestly i guess i just never really thought about it in the ways of people probably just assuming i got lucky, whatever. no, i literally worked my ASS off - i just found a way to love doing it ( for the most part lol ) & so here are some of my tips of how i handle the club wherever i work & hopefully this brings out some deep, inner hustle or overall A LOT of $$$ spells ♡

1. LEARN TO LOVE YOUR CUSTOMERS: everyone has at least ONE good thing about them, whether it be their looks, personality / brains, or even the smell of their cologne or eye color. literally just focus on that and any other good qualities that person has. make them feel wanted, loved, like they aren’t a burden, desired sexually, whatever it is that they came in for - give them that experience without breaking your own boundaries. HERE IS ONE EXTREMELY SPECIFIC EXAMPLE : this sounds weird & borderline fucked up, but a lot of guys ( again, just speaking from my experience alone) who were / are my regulars that are married kept coming in to see me because their s/o didn’t make them feel wanted or loved. ( no, they were not going to leave their s/o for me & i definitely never want that for them / myself ) but it was clear they were important work wise and felt dominant & needed at work and almost in a very stressful, not GOOD stress way if that makes sense - so they would come in looking for a girl who would give them the feelings they longed for. whether it is just literally telling them they are handsome, actively listening to their conversations, keeping eye contact, making jokes because you understood their conversation, flirting, etc. it truly made their mindset so much more relaxed & happy & weirdly it helped their at home lives ( in my experience ) so I always saw that as a win win. like by being able to be at the club and talk / openly communicate, I've heard from a lot that it helped them communicate with their significant other about anything & everything! on some occasions I even got to do couples dances for them which honestly made me happy ♡ of course you’re going to deal with the people who don’t care & will try and sleep with you while being married, etc. but i’d be lying if i told you that was an unheard of weird thing lol. & what i wrote above on how to make your customers feel apply to EVERY person that comes in, i just wanted to use that specific example! ♡ everyone wants to feel: wanted, listened to, sexy / cute / attractive, validated, etc. so, love your customers and they will love you 💅🏼

2. URGENCY: do not talk longer than 2 songs when approaching a new customer because lets be real - men are easy in that way & usually know if you’re their type / would ever dance with you in a minute. don’t listen to the bullshit “come back in 30 mins”, “im just watching the show”, etc - most of the time they just don’t know how to say no or they’re still trying to find the girl they want ( which is fine, but don’t let it waste your time ). just walk away POLITELY ( unless they’re a complete dick ) & go about your night, who knows, maybe he’ll come back around! definitely experienced that many times and why i will always choose to be nice even if they say no or give a super vague answer because you just never know. every guy i have talked to anywhere i have worked at HATE the super aggressive approaches & i get it, i’m not a fan either because it just reminds me of salespeople who just want their $$$ ASAP & to get the fuck home - which again, is fine but it’s not a good way in my opinion to try & sell something “personal” while coming off extremely transactional & impersonal when yes, it is about the $$ in the end but HELLLOOOO we are gifted beautiful actresses for a reason !!!!  

3. CONFIDENCE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND: 60% of the time i faked it, but i felt great shortly after ( truly ) and realized these people wanted to spend their time, their money on someone who *wanted* to be there / be in their presence, came off as happy & easy to talk to, fun, & also sexy + knows EXACTLY what she wants ( but will most likely make you work for it, in the right ways that keep bringing in money, keep your boundaries & keep them coming back to see more of you ) ♡

4. Odd take but it works for me so: IF UR IN A RELATIONSHIP, LIKE SOMEONE, FRIENDS W BENEFITS, LITERRRRALLY ANYTHING PERSONAL AND DANCING FEELS A LIL WEIRD ON A STRANGER - IMAGINE YOU’RE DANCING ON YOUR PERSON: just get in the mood & feeeeeel yourself. that lap is now your ( insert here ) lap. you are going to rock their mf WORLD and actually have fun! if your partner isn’t big on this idea or about you dancing in general, that’s an entirely seperate topic & i know partners of SW’ers read this - i’m nooooot saying to break the boundaries of a relationship, just simply do what you would normally be doing anyways just in a one sided mental roleplay that will make work a lot more fun / happy to be there & make more $$$. so yes, i have tried this in the past & been very successful with it. 

5. SET A SHIFT $$ GOAL AS WELL AS WEEKLY & MONTHLY: ask yourself every time you go to work: “what is my goal i want to leave with tonight?” followed with “what is the lowest amount i am okay leaving with?” & always aim for higher & do not settle. even if you don’t hit your first goal, etc - having the “never settling” mindset really does change how you work and how you come off. for example: unless i’m in vegas i never do a single song because my home club does not have nearly enough traffic, the tip out isn’t worth it & in my experience the guys who only want to do $20-$60 worth of dances rarely ever wanted to do more as that was usually just all the money they had. i always tell customers who ask me if i do them that i promoted myself years ago & i do $100 minimum. some guys walked away after that - but more often than not they came back with the proper amount needed for a dance with me if not that night but the same week i worked. MONEY GOALS THOUGH: ( sorrrrry went off topic but hi! ) setting goals will have you thinking of this job more career wise in my opinion which to me led to: actually setting a schedule vs showing up whenever i felt like it or needed to, how much $$ i made an hour ( if i worked 5 hours and left with 1k i made $200/hr, etc ), & then eventually how much do i want to clear a week, & how much do i want to clear in a month? write down things you NEED & WANT - big & small. start crossing things off this list, start writing down legit financial plans of how you’re going to save / invest your $$ because this industry is getting a lot of cash, quickly so you better figure it out before you burn out & used up everything in your accounts & have nothing to show for your hard work anymore. ( i mean this in the nicest possible way, but lets be real - i see this shit happen ALLLL the time & that’s why learning how to manage your $$ is one of the most important things to do in this industry ).

6. IF YOU HAVE A DANCER IG OR TWITTER - USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE: let your current customers & potential new ones know when / where you’re working if you’re comfortable doing that! it helps them know your schedule and usually they’ll plan a day of the week to see you, or at least if it’s a new person they’ll pop in with the intent of knowing you will be there! & by having your socials & if you do online work - easy way to “sell” your onlyfans / etc without having to really actually sell it. 

7. OFFER AN INCENTIVE: anything that is mutually beneficial is usually always reciprocated well - but why not up the stakes? if someone gets a lap dance from you and does x amount of dances they get a prize! whether it be: free onlyfans trial, free pics / video, your "snapchat" or "phone number", etc! make it fun! I usually do a free video from my onlyfans or week trial if someone gets a private room from me on a super slow night, photos + videos ( depending on how much everything was but regardless ALWAYS a photoset ) in whatever things from my wishlist, etc someone got me, on regular nights still offering to send over some sexy photos for whoever does 3 VIPS and or tips the best! & if you can choose your songs - throwing $$ on your stage if they pick the songs. this makes people happier usually and want to keep doing whatever it is because the rewards on top of your service(s) are the cherries on top that we alllll love & eat up! 

8. AFFIRMATIONS, MANTRAS, $$ OILS / SPRAYS / ETC: check out my other blog for some of my favorite affirmations but I'm making an instagram post later today with my fav mantras / affirmations $$ and self deserving / love related ♡ also I religiously use STRIPPER WITCHIN products before work - specifically: "ca$h out" oil, "baller alert" spray, "vixen" oil & "seduction" soap! ( I say my mantras while putting it on! ) and of course wearing an outfit I feel sexy in & doing my makeup to feel the same way. 

happy hus$$$tling babe! I'm rooting for you 🥳💕

love,

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